What Mediation Can Teach You for the Campaign Trail

I am linking here to a great post from Vicky Pynchon on how her mediation training helped her when she was canvassing for Barack Obama on Monday in Nevada. It is truly lovely — great story and great lessons.

What did I learn on the campaign trail? Other than breaking a lifetime phobia of the cold call I re-learned what I already knew from my mediation training and experience:

  1. share stories (not opinions)
  2. look for similarities rather than differences
  3. listen with a compassionate heart
  4. remember that behind every accusation and stated fear is a plea for help
  5. create/expand common ground
  6. be respectful of other people’s point of view
  7. assist people in making new or different decisions only when they ask for it

All good advice as well for the next administration!

Cross posted at Indisputably.

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The Long March

In November, 1868, the newly freed slaves in South Carolina turned out to vote in the first presidential election they had ever been allowed to participate in. It was a momentous occasion; hundreds of thousands of persons who had been deprived of their rights for centuries were now finally able to enjoy all of the privileges of citizenship, including the right of suffrage. Voting in the 1860s meant travelling long distances to the county seat to cast a ballot, often requiring an overnight stay; it was an arduous process, but they were eager to make the attempt.

But many in 1868 found that they had made the trip for nothing. Armed militias of whites, determined to prevent blacks from voting, arose all across the South, particularly in South Carolina. Acting at the direction of Democratic party leaders, these bands of vigilantes, sometimes calling themselves Ku Klux Klans, confiscated Republican ballots, threatened prospective voters, and assassinated Republican candidates for office. On the two days of the November election, hundreds of armed whites rode all over upcountry South Carolina, surrounding polling stations and preventing blacks from entering. The tactic was a success; blacks were denied the right to vote in several South Carolina counties, and the local Democratic ticket was elected by large majorities in all of them.

And so, it is a measure of the distance we have come in 140 years, that yesterday an African-American man was elected as President of the United States, on the Democratic Party ticket, in an election that was almost entirely peaceful.

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Go Vote–It’s a Wonderful Dispute Resolution Process

Perhaps the most amazing development in U.S. history occurred when George Washington refused to become king, and peacefully handed over power to John Adams. The concept that power will be voluntarily (or at least peacefully) handed over to someone who believes in completely different values and ideals than the current political leader is still so revolutionary that numerous countries face violence and repression at the mere thought. Let’s not take our democracy for granted. And, while there are plenty of sophisticated methods out there to resolve disputes, voting is a great one. So . . . get out there and vote!

Cross posted at Indisputably.

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